4 Ways to Upgrade Foreplay
Add a little more fun and play the right way...
You and your partner are so in sync that you can easily finish each other’s sentences, dinners, and even intimate thoughts in the bedroom. But as in tune as you are with each other's bodies, you likely stick to the same routine when it comes to getting in the mood. Which is fine – but every now and then, it might be fun to switch things up, explore new territory together, and get even closer as a couple.
For an intimate experience you'll both never forget, try out these tips:
1. Start With a Massage
A massage is an ideal way to help you and your partner relax and make the transition away from hectic office stress. As your muscles relax, your inner tension will fall away, making you more open to being present for your partner and allowing you to enjoy yourself.
As your muscles relax, your inner tension will fall away, allowing you to enjoy yourself...
2. Incorporate Lubricant
Many couples use lubricant only for intimacy, missing out on the thrilling experience of incorporating lubricant into foreplay. Lubricants, including K-Y products, help intensify your partner's touch – especially if you use a warming or tingling variety – and can help increase your passionate connection, regardless of what foreplay techniques you engage in.
3. Make It a Sensory Experience
Whether you light a candle, spray perfume, or wear a scented lotion, the power of scent is a fun way you can set the mood – think exotic fragrances like tuberose and coconut or erotic aromas like bergamot and ylang ylang. Work the sense of taste into foreplay by drinking a glass of wine before or tasting dark chocolate together – both of which are fun ways to further enhance the mood.
4. Cover Your Eyes, Open Your Ears
You've likely heard before that any time you take away one sense, the others heighten. Using a sleep mask or a soft cloth to cover you or your partner's eyes for part of foreplay can create a deeper trusting and intimate experience. With his sight eliminated, he’s placed his trust in you, leaving him intimately vulnerable. Take this opportunity to get verbal. By telling your partner exactly what you are about to do, he’ll fill with anticipation and excitement of what’s coming next.
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About the Author
Journalist Natasha Burton has written for Cosmopolitan for Latinas, Maxim, Cosmopolitan.com, and WomansDay.com, among others. The author of "101 Quizzes for Couples" and "The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags," she is regularly called on as a relationship expert by various media outlets around the world.
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