Male Sexuality vs. Female Sexuality

Male Sexuality vs. Female Sexuality

How gender differences can affect your relationship

By: Alexa Joy Sherman

 

It's been said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus – an idea that, in spite of progress, largely still rings true. No matter how much has changed since the sexual revolution – allowing both genders to enjoy equality in ways that excite them both inside and outside of the bedroom – plenty of distinctions remain. That doesn’t have to be a bad thing – far from it, in fact. Here’s how to not only accept the differences in each other, but embrace and celebrate them to help take your relationship to the next level.

 

Synchronize Your Sex Drive Schedules

No surprise here: Research finds that men tend to have stronger sex drives than women, and therefore initiate physical intimacy more often. Of course, it feels good when your man wants you, but it can also be a lot of pressure if a woman’s not always eager to go. To ensure differences in desire don’t become an issue, experts suggest discussing needs and compromising as much as possible. If, say, he wants it once a day and she wants it once a week, aim for every other day. A little give and take goes a long way in keeping both parties happy.

 

Foreplay & Lubricants

Men also tend to become more easily aroused than women. If she’s not feeling the excitement or getting caught up in the heat of the moment quite as quickly, having plenty of foreplay can work wonders, as can exploring over-the-counter lubricants with sensation or tingling properties.

Most women tend to connect sex with a close relationship and crave more emotional intimacy than men.

 

Add Some Romance

Most women tend to connect sex with a close relationship and crave more emotional intimacy than men. Maintaining those deeper connections doesn’t have to mean forcing guys to light candles, draw bubble baths or bring home giant bouquets of flowers. Some strategies relationship experts recommend include talking about the things that matter most to both of you – such as hopes for the future and the things that make you happiest – as well as complimenting each other, laughing often, and exploring new interests and hobbies.

 

Take Care of Each Other

When it comes to sex, one of the biggest differences between men and women has to do with the “elusive” female orgasm. Ladies don’t just take a while to become aroused but almost always take longer to climax, if they do at all. But that’s okay though. Making sure that you’re emotionally connected can do wonders for your orgasm odds, as can a whole lot of healthy exploration between the sheets, determining what works and what doesn’t. Oftentimes, a longer session is all it takes.

 

Dare to Be Different

When you consider that variety is the spice of life, it stands to reason that your differences can truly make your relationship and times of intimacy hotter than ever. The key is to stay open minded, understanding and committed to working through any issues if and when they arise. Ultimately, you may even come to realize that while having a lot in common is great, it’s the ways you contrast and complement each other that ensure the excitement never ends.

 

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About the Author

Alexa Joy Sherman is a journalist and editor who has contributed to national magazines including "Family Circle," "Fit Pregnancy," "Fitness," "Parents," "Woman's Day" and "Women's Health." She is also the published coauthor of two nonfiction books for adults, as well as the author of a fiction series for teens.