Myths & Facts About Intimacy After 40
Your love life after 40 can be as fulfilling (or more!) as it was in your younger years. In your 40s you would have outgrown the inexperience and social faux pas that came with youth. You know how to rock your body – and your partner’s – meaning your intimate life has the potential of reaching an all-time high.
Own the confident and sexy woman that you are with the help of the few debunked myths (and facts) below.
Women Over 40 Are Past Their Peak
False. Though some women may experience a decrease in their libidos after age 40, a lot of women don't mind it. Remember the old adage about quality, not quantity. Although you might find less time between the sheets, your relationship might be more passionate – leaving you feeling more connected to your partner than ever.
A 40-Plus Body Isn't Desirable
Absolutely false. In your 40s, you’ve had years to learn to love and celebrate your body. Experiencing intimacy isn't about how you look, and it certainly isn't about the perfect body. Focus on sharing how you feel before, during and after an intimate experience. Try taking time to explore and experiment – what worked for you at 20 might not do the trick anymore. Do more kissing and cuddling. Experiment with whole-body massages and vibrators to make intimacy more fulfilling – and more fun – at any age.
True. It's true that hormonal changes you experience as you age can lead to occasional dryness. This is completely normal. When things become a bit dry, just reach for a K-Y® brand lubricant product. If you just need moisture, K-Y® Liquibeads® can do the trick, but if you're in the mood for a little more adventure, try K-Y® YOURS + MINE®, which includes two lubricants, one formulated for women and one for men, in a single package.
You Still Need Some Form of Birth Control
True. Though you might be experiencing hot flashes and other premenopausal symptoms, your ovaries haven’t “retired” yet. In fact, they might keep kicking until you're well into your 50s. So, unless you’re in the market for a potential later life pregnancy, don’t take various forms of birth control off the table.
- University of Maryland Medical Center: Vaginal Dryness
- Woman's Day: Myths About Sex After 40
- North American Menopause Society: Changes at Midlife
- University of Colorado OB-GYN and Family Planning: Contraception for Women Over 40
- American Journal of Medicine: Sexual Activity and Satisfaction in Healthy Community-dwelling Older Women
- Psychology Today: All About Sex
About the Author
Lori A. Selke has been a professional writer and editor for more than 15 years, touching on topics ranging from LGBT issues to sexuality and sexual health, parenting, alternative health, popular music, film and video, food and cooking. Her work has appeared in "Curve Magazine," "Girlfriends," "Libido," "The Children's Advocate," Decider.com, "The SF Weekly," EthicalFoods.com and GoMag.com.