The Importance of Sexual Compatibility

Compatible couples

There are a lot of ingredients that go into creating a successful romantic relationship. Topping the list for most couples are things such as great communication, mutual respect, having fun together and – yes, you guessed, it – great intimacy. In fact, an Iowa State University study found that higher levels of sexual satisfaction correlated with better marriages. How can you reach this relationship echelon? Make sure you’re intimately compatible.
 

Talk about it

Though it has been said, again and again, communication is an important – if not the most important – component of any successful relationship, and it's the key to intimate compatibility. So make sure those lines are completely open at all times. This doesn't just mean discussing what's working for each of you, but also what isn't. If you want intimacy more often than he does, come up with a schedule that works for both of you. If he wants to experiment with sex toys but you're feeling more timid, find a way to meet in the middle. The more you acknowledge and address all your wants and needs, the closer you’ll get to being in sync.

Go deep

It’s important to truly understand what turns your partner on. To do that, you must ask the big questions and pay attention to the responses and not just the potentially misleading moans and groans while you’re in the act. Seek some direction and you shall find compatibility beyond your wildest dreams.
 

Complement each other

Not to be confused with a “compliment” – although a kind word can go a long way too – you should complement your partner, as in give and take. If he loves to give and you love to receive, or vice-versa, that’s obviously a big score in the sexual compatibility department. In fact, research finds that opposites attract because of a distinct biological factor is known as major histocompatibility complex markers. Bear in mind, too, that you can reverse roles now and then. Maybe he initiates on the weekends and you take the reins during the week. Mix it up and you’ll keep the excitement – and compatibility – coming.
 

Appreciate yourself

Perhaps the ultimate secret to intimate compatibility has to do with what you’re bringing to the table. There’s simply no denying that making a relationship, sexual or otherwise, work begins with the one you have with yourself. Start there, and satisfaction with both yourself and your partner is practically guaranteed.

References

• Couples Who Play Together Stay Together
• 5 Secrets to Sexual Compatibility
• Simultaneous Penile-Vaginal Intercourse Orgasm is Associated with Satisfaction
• What’s the Secret to Sexual Compatibility?

About the Author

Alexa Joy Sherman is a journalist and editor who has contributed to national magazines including "Family Circle," "Fit Pregnancy," "Fitness," "Parents," "Woman's Day," and "Women's Health." She is also the published co-author of two nonfiction books for adults, as well as the author of a fiction series for teens.