Our ultimate guide to getting the most pleasure out of your lubricants

By: Natasha Burton

If you're interested in having amazing intimacy and furthering your connection with your partner – who isn't, right? – look no further than your trusty bottle of lubricant. Seamlessly building upon what your body does naturally, this one product has the power to create incredible sensations.

If you're not a regular lubricant user, you may be unsure of how to get the job done. No worries – to maximize lubricant's pleasure potential, test out these tips and experience physical intimacy like you've never felt before.


Try It Solo First

The best way to figure out how you'll prefer to use lubricant during sex is to practice using it by yourself. You may prefer a lube of a certain consistency or type – try a product like K-Y® Warming® Liquid for a natural-feeling option or K-Y Yours+Mine® couples lubricant to get two different lubes specially designed to enhance both men's and women's pleasure. Then determine how much lube feels best for you – some like a lot, some like just a little, and some are somewhere in between. Doing a little pre-intimacy legwork will be worth it when you get the most out of the main event.


Use It During Foreplay

While you're revving up for intimacy is a great time to show your partner what you discovered about your lubricant preferences and allow each other to explore how it feels when you apply it to each other. Because of its slippery properties, it enhances the pleasure of skin-on-skin foreplay contact – whether you're using your hands or your mouths to turn each other on – adding a refreshing new element to your pre-intimate playtime.


Use It in the Act

When you're ready to get intimate, apply lubricant on both of you at the beginning to start the action when you're ready to go. You'll find that its slickness creates a thrilling sensation, upping the pleasure factor. But you don't need to stop there: Keep your lubricant in arm's reach as you may want to reapply as needed, especially if you're using a water-based lubricant. That way you can keep going for a longer session (less irritation), or keep yourselves moving along smoothly if you're frequently switching positions.

Use It When You're Incorporating Props

If you're bringing toys into your routine, sliding on some lubricant is a fun way to change things up a bit and create new sensations. Especially with vibrators that go inside, lubricant can make playing with props more comfortable and pleasurable. But, be sure you're using a water-based lubricant when you're incorporating various tools; oil-based varieties can leave a greasy coating, which is pretty unsexy. Also steer clear of silicone-based lubricant if you are using a silicone toy, which can ruin the surface.


About the Author

Journalist Natasha Burton has written for Cosmopolitan for Latinas, Maxim,, and, among others. The author of "101 Quizzes for Couples" and "The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags," she is regularly called on as a relationship expert by various media outlets around the world.


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