5 Secrets to Better Orgasms

Having an orgasm is a wonderfully satisfying feeling that is sometimes elusive that only a few get to experience. For those who struggle to achieve the ultimate climax with their partner, the mere suggestion of wanting to improve them might seem a bit daunting.

However, the truth is, that orgasms differ significantly from person to person and also vary on each occasion. In fact, no two orgasms are really ever the same. Some can last for a couple of seconds while others gradually build up over time.

Delay the pleasure

The International Society for Sexual Medicine states that if you pause during sex before you are close to reaching a climax, the eventual orgasm will be far more powerful. A concept known as ‘delayed gratification’ can be a hard technique to master; but with practice, it works equally well for both male and female orgasms.

To master the trick of pushing yourself to the ‘edge’, have you and your partner slow down, then repeat 2 or 3 times before finishing – essentially, the longer the build-up, the greater the result.

Hit the Spot

Hitting both you and your partner's G-spots can also have powerful results for the both of you. How to find the G-spot may be a question on your mind.

The G-spot, also known as the Gräfenberg spot, is an erogenous zone located inside the vagina, typically about 1-2 inches up on the front wall. It has a slightly rough or textured surface and can vary in size and sensitivity from person to person.

To locate the G-spot, it's important to communicate openly with your partner and explore together. Begin by engaging in foreplay to ensure both of you are sufficiently aroused. Then, with clean hands or a well-lubricated finger, gently insert it into the vagina, palm facing upward. Slowly explore the front wall of the vagina, applying gentle pressure and using a "come hither" motion with your finger. Try K-Y® True Feel Silicone Based Lube or K-Y® Ultragel Water Based Personal Lubricant for added glide and comfort.

While working the male equivalent – the prostate – will have a similarly intense effect on men. It can be stimulated externally by applying pressure to the perineum, which is located between the anus and the testicles. This area is packed with nerve endings and is extremely sensitive to touch.

While the G-Spot can create intense orgasms, clitoral stimulation during intercourse produces a far more intense kind of orgasm for women, and can increase the intensity for her during lovemaking. The clitoris is a highly sensitive organ located at the top of the vulva, and it contains a dense network of nerve endings dedicated solely to pleasure.

During sexual activity, focusing on clitoral stimulation can lead to heightened arousal and more powerful orgasms. Incorporating manual stimulation, oral sex, or using sex toys designed for clitoral pleasure can greatly enhance the sexual experience for women.

Kegels

Kegel exercises are well known to strengthen a women's pelvic floor muscles by repeatedly clenching the muscles on a daily basis. Often great for women during pregnancy or post-childbirth, kegel exercises can greatly improve orgasms too.

With continued exercises, you can increase sensitivity and stimulation for a greater orgasm. What is slightly less well-known is that these exercises are not just for women; there are several ways that men can contract their pelvic muscles to help improve stamina.

Breathing

Admittedly, the thought of tantric sex may be too nerve-wracking for many people – perhaps too 'out there’, ‘hippy’ or ‘spiritual’. However, like yoga, controlling your breathing can have surprisingly beneficial physical results. Just before an orgasm, the breathing naturally starts to speed up as the body becomes aroused and excited. But, if the breathing can be kept slower and controlled, this will increase the flow of oxygen and blood to the genitals which in turn will make the orgasm even stronger.

Check your medication

For some, it may seem obvious and for others, they’ll be completely oblivious, but certain medications can have an adverse effect on both the male and female libido. Anti-depressants are a very common culprit to flat-line sex drive, whilst some stronger prescription painkillers can interfere and impede sensitivity and orgasm.

It’s important to consult your doctor before you start any medication as they may cause an interference to your sex life.

Summarizing How to Have Better Orgasms

In conclusion, exploring the realm of better orgasms can lead to truly mind-blowing experiences of pleasure and satisfaction. Understanding that orgasms differ from person to person and even from one encounter to another is key. By implementing a few techniques and strategies, you can enhance your sexual excitement and take your orgasms to new heights.

Some techniques to practice for better orgasms are delayed gratification, stimulating the G-spot and clitoris in women or the prostate in men, practicing Kegel exercises, and controlling your breathing.

Remember to consider the potential impact of medications on your sexual experience. Certain medications, such as anti-depressants or prescription painkillers, can affect libido, sensitivity, and even the ability to reach orgasm. Always consult with your doctor regarding any medication you're taking to ensure it doesn't interfere with your sexual life.

Incorporating these techniques and considerations into your intimate moments can help you unlock a whole new level of pleasure and satisfaction. Remember, each person's journey to better orgasms is unique, so don't be afraid to explore, communicate with your partner, and find what feels good for you. Embrace the possibilities, and let the path to incredible orgasms unfold before you.

Resources

• Cleveland Clinic Kegal Exercises
• International Society of Sexual Medicine
• National Library of Medicine