Intimacy After Menopause

Intimacy can be stronger and more satisfying after menopause...

 Many women report that they enjoy stronger and more satisfying intimacy with their partners after menopause. The kids are out of the house which means more time to connect with your partner. Many women may also feel more confident and better able to communicate their desires in the bedroom.

A common side effect of menopause, however, is decreased libido, which is a result of lower estrogen and testosterone levels. These hormonal changes may also result in vaginal dryness and pain, making intimacy uncomfortable.

Here are some tips to make intimacy more comfortable.

Take it slow and easy

Don’t skimp on the foreplay! Carve out time for kissing and cuddling, which will help you feel closer to your partner as well as help prepare your body for intimacy. Enjoy the moment – remember you have the whole house to yourselves now – and take time to discover each other. Regular intimacy can not only help you connect with your partner but can also help keep your muscles limber and stimulate blood flow, which can make intimacy more comfortable.

Enjoy the moment – remember you have the whole house to yourselves now...

Try lubricants

Lubricants can help ease friction. K-Y® is the #1 doctor recommended personal lubricant brand in the US. If this is your first time using a lubricant, try K-Y® Liquid Personal Lubricant for a natural feeling – it is gentle and helps replace your personal moisture.

If you desire longer lasting moisture, try a vaginal moisturizer, like K-Y® LiquiBeads. If over-the-counter lubricants aren’t doing the trick, consider talking to your doctor about alternative solutions.

Maintain a healthy diet and exercise regularly

A healthy lifestyle can help maintain your libido after menopause. A diet rich in vitamins, antioxidants, lean protein and whole grains can boost your energy level.

In addition, regular workouts can improve circulation and blood flow, increase your energy level, elevate your mood, and increase interest in intimacy.  Even low-impact exercise such as yoga or brisk walking can give you these benefits.

Consult your doctor

Some medications might inhibit libido. For example, some medications that help control blood pressure can affect blood flow, which could also contribute to discomfort during intimacy.

References

• Reviews in Obstetrics and Gynecology: Sexual Function in Elderly Women: A Review of Current Literature
• The North American Menopause Society: Sexual Health After Menopause
• Everyday Health: Sex and Menopause 
• Everyday Health: 7 Healthy Habits to Improve Your Sex Life

Resources (Further Reading)

• American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors & Therapists

About the Author

Virginia Pelley is a former senior editor at "Fit Pregnancy" and "Natural Health" magazines who has written for "Shape," "Vegetarian Times," "Details," Al Jazeera America, BUST, the "LA Weekly" and "San Francisco Bay Guardian." She lives in Brooklyn, New York.

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