5 Ways to Have Better Intimacy

Life is dynamic and ever-changing—and so are relationships. What once connected you to your partner and helped you feel intimate may not do the trick anymore. Or sometimes, couples simply fall into routines and may forget to make the effort. Either way, building love, trust, and security with the most important person in your life is a daily commitment that can always use extra attention.

Increase physical contact

Everyone innately craves touch because it helps us feel safe, loved, and desired. Intimacy can be expressed in many ways, not just by making love. Be sure you hug, kiss, massage, tickle, hold hands, or cuddle each and every day. Try increasing the time that you are physically connected, and see if you both notice the difference.

Decrease distractions

Between computers, TVs, smartphones, social media, and busy schedules, it's easy to become distracted. The phone beeps, taking attention away from your loved one, which can cause anxiety and hurt feelings. Make an effort to mute phones and turn off the TV set. Disconnect from your technology and plug into your partner.

Flirt regularly

Write love notes. Send a sexy text. Dress up. Go out on a date. Light candles. Play "your song." Buy an intimate gift for the bedroom such as the K-Y® Ultimate Thrill™ Premium Rabbit. A little flirting goes a long way. Injecting romance –and even a dash of spice –into your day is sure to bring you closer together.

Show gratitude

From time to time, you may get hung up on what your partner is doing that gets on your nerves, which creates a divide between you both. However, there's always something he's doing to enhance your day – even if it takes a second look to figure it out. Be sure to notice what it is and thank him sincerely. Expressing gratitude is one of the easiest and most meaningful ways to connect.

Express interest in your partner's passions

While you share a great deal with the person you love, you may not have a passion for everything. By expressing interest in your partner's hobbies, it shows you care and presents another opportunity for strengthening intimacy. Next time he's watching the big game, watch it with him and share in the excitement.

About the Author
Zoe Wilder is a writer with a Bachelor of Arts in English literature from the College of William & Mary, and a Master of Social Work from Fordham University. Her work has been published in The Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Kinkly, MindBodyGreen, URB,‘SUP Magazine, Vault, Brooklyn Exposed, and Thought Catalog.