sex after baby

Giving birth can be a wonderful experience, as new moms can look forward to discovering the joys and adventures with their bundle of joy. However, it can be an anxious time to resume intimate relationship weeks or months after giving birth. Despite receiving the green light from your doctor, you may find that intimacy with your partner may not be the same as before the arrival of your baby. Here are a few tips to help you enjoy intimacy after giving birth and help you and your partner relax into this exciting new part of your relationship.


Try new positions

Depending on the type of birth you've had and how long ago it was, you may find that certain positions aren't as comfortable as before. To avoid discomfort, try new positions that boast shallow penetration for extra comfort. If you and partner aren’t completely comfortable with going all the way, try giving each other a sensual massage as a form of foreplay to help you feel more relaxed and comfortable. Remember, the most important thing is to take things at your own pace and never rush your body into doing something before it’s ready.


Get comfortable

After pregnancy, hormonal changes can cause vaginal dryness and can potentially increase vaginal sensitivity. To ensure that physical intimacy with your partner is as comfortable as possible, consider using a lubricant. Make sure to consult with your doctors as a lubricant can help prevent any potential discomfort, ensuring everything runs smoothly so you and your partner can enjoy great sex together.


Support your breasts

If you're breastfeeding, your breasts may be sore and heavy, which can cause discomfort. To help minimize any pain, try wearing a nursing bra or tank top that gives you support. If you decide to hold off for a while, take comfort that knowing as you and your baby get into a breastfeeding pattern; your breasts will become less sensitive, allowing you and your partner to get more intimate.


Do Kegel exercises

After having a baby, your vaginal muscles may be temporarily stretched which may cause intimacy with your partner to feel different than it did pre-baby. However, don't let that affect you as the differences are subtle and temporary. To help strengthen your pelvic muscles, do Kegel exercises to help get your vagina back in shape faster. These exercises not only are beneficial for you in the long run but can help pave the way for better intimacy.


Experiment with vibrators

If you're anxious about having sex after giving birth, why not ease yourself into it by experimenting with toys? Vibrators are a great way to achieve stimulation while controlling the depth of penetration, giving you and your partner the opportunity to get used to the motions of sex again before committing to the full act. Whether you use it alone for manual stimulation or want to introduce it into your lovemaking sessions with your partner, sexual aids such as vibrators and intimate massagers can be a great way to pave the way for physical intimacy.


Stay safe

Finally, it is important to remember that you are extra fertile after giving birth so taking necessary precautions is a must. Not all new moms like to return to the pill, but even if you do, it is still advisable to wear condoms to prevent any mishaps. 

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