How to Increase Your Sex Drive After the Baby Is Born
Of course, you're thrilled to have a new little one. And while you adore your guy as much as ever, it’s understandable that you're not feeling as ready for intimacy as you'd like. Numerous factors linked to having a baby can make physical intimacy less appealing.
The good news is that you can take steps to restore your libido, keeping your relationship, and sense of closeness strong. To rule out any medical issues and ensure you are physically ready to be intimate, doctors recommend holding off on intimacy for six or more weeks. And, when you think you’re ready, make sure you to get your doctor’s OK before you get intimate again.
Seek more ZZZs
It’s no secret that having a newborn can make sleep a challenge. And sleep loss is a major libido tanker. If your baby's sleep is erratic, try to sleep, or at least rest, whenever baby sleeps. Don't worry that you won't hear her cry – remind yourself that you will. Also, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it, or to say no to obligations that stand in the way of taking care of yourself.
Boost your body image
If you feel less attractive after pregnancy, or see signs of tiredness in the mirror instead of beauty, remind yourself that you’re a superstar who just facilitated the miracle of birth. Criticizing yourself will only make you feel worse and lovemaking less enticing. Replace negative self-talk it with positive affirmations until you actually believe them. Wear colorful clothes that fit you well, rather than sticking to loose sweats or pajamas. Every now and then, take time to put on makeup, dress up, or visit the salon. A little TLC can go a long way in getting your sexy back.
Try sexual aids
Childbirth and breastfeeding can cause vaginal dryness, which can decrease desire and make physical intimacy uncomfortable. When making love, use a lubricant, such as K-Y® UltraGel®. This lubricant isn't sticky or greasy and washes off easily. Or introduce a fun product, like a couple's vibrator, to amp up the passion and enhance the romantic adventure. Chances are, the device and your pleasure will both be huge turn-ons for your partner.
Emotional intimacy sets the stage for the physical connection. Don't limit conversations with your partner to just talk about the baby. Spending quality time together chatting about yourselves and your feelings can really strengthen your bond. The more connected you feel as a couple, the more likely you are to get physically aroused.
About the Author
August McLaughlin is a health and sexuality writer and certified nutritionist in Los Angeles. Her work is featured in numerous magazines including "Healthy Aging," "CitySmart," "DAME" and IAmThatGirl. She holds specializations in eating disorders, healthy weight management and sports nutrition and loves connecting with readers and writers via her blog, Facebook and Twitter.