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Why Couples Should Have More Sex

He’s the ham to your cheese, the peanut butter to your jelly, and the cookies to your milk. While you know he’ll be there to laugh with you in the good times and lend a shoulder in the not-so-good, with busy work schedules, social engagements and mental to-do list hundreds of items long, sometimes your intimate life doesn’t get the attention it deserves.

Many couples tend to undervalue the deeper significance of physical intimacy. But more than just something fun you do as a couple, intimacy is a crucial aspect of your bond for these important – and partnership-boosting – reasons. Are you ready for a steamy rendezvous? Here are some of the best reasons why you and your partner should crank up the intimacy and have more sex for an exhilarating and fulfilling connection.

It keeps you bonded

Because of the hormones released when you're between the sheets and immediately following, you'll feel a deeper bond with your partner when you're intimate with each other

Oxytocin is the biggest part of this hormone cocktail. Both men and women release this chemical when they have an orgasm, and it produces feel-good vibes like nothing else. Not to knock dinner and a movie, but being intimate makes you feel a sense of attachment and closeness that not even the most romantic date can replicate.

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It's your "Thing"

Intimacy is something you do only with each other. It's something you share with no one else, which makes it special and meaningful for that reason alone. Sure, you may have had other partners in the past, but in the here and now, physical intimacy is undoubtedly, unequivocally your own thing. When you do the deed, you and your partner remind each other that you're in a special club of two that gets to have fun without your clothes on.

It makes you feel loved

They don't call it making love for nothing. Men especially feel validated and loved by some bedroom action, as they value physical intimacy as a way of feeling closer to their partners. In fact, intimacy can be a comforting experience. Ultimately, desiring your partner and feeling desired in return can be very validating – not to mention a huge confidence boost.

It boosts your mood

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Oxytocin isn't the only hormone released during intimacy. Your body also produces endorphins, which create an overall feeling of happiness. Plus, regular physical intimacy helps regulate your brain's cortisol levels, which ultimately reduces stress in your daily life.

How to Have More Sex With Your Partner

Now that you understand the compelling reasons why you should prioritize physical intimacy, let's explore how you can have more sex with your partner and nurture a fulfilling connection.

Prioritize Quality Time

Set aside dedicated moments for each other. Clear your schedules, create a romantic atmosphere, and make your intimate encounters a priority. Show your partner that you value and desire this special time together.

Communicate Openly

Discuss your desires, fantasies, and preferences with your partner. Effective communication builds trust, strengthens the emotional bond, and paves the way for exciting and pleasurable experiences in the bedroom.

Explore New Adventures

Inject novelty into your love life by trying new experiences. Experiment with different positions, role-playing, or introducing toys and lubricants to enhance pleasure and heighten sensations. For a steamy new experience, try incorporating K-Y® Warming Liquid Personal Lube into your next intimate moment for a new sensation of gentle warmth.

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Be Mindful of Stress

Life can get hectic, but it's crucial to manage stress to make room for intimacy. Find ways to unwind and relax together, whether through exercise, meditation, or engaging in activities that bring you both joy and tranquility. Remember, reducing stress levels greatly benefits your overall well-being and intimate life.

By actively implementing these strategies, you can create a more intimate and passionate connection with your partner. Remember, the goal is not just to have more sex, but to deepen your emotional bond, experience pleasure, and foster a stronger relationship.

Embrace Connection and Have More Sex for a Fulfilling Partnership

In closing, it's time to embrace the significance of physical intimacy and the positive impact it can have on your relationship. By recognizing the powerful bond it creates, the feeling of exclusivity it brings, and the emotional validation it provides, you can cultivate a deeper connection with your partner.

Remember, intimacy is not just about the act itself but the love, trust, and pleasure it generates. So, prioritize quality time, communicate openly, explore new adventures, and be mindful of stress.

By actively nurturing your intimate life and prioritizing the connection with your partner, you're fostering a relationship that thrives on love, satisfaction, and fulfillment. So go forth, create your own special moments, and enjoy the incredible journey of intimacy together.

Here's to a vibrant and passionate love life!



Healthline (2023), Why Is Oxytocin Known as the ‘Love Hormone’? And 11 Other FAQs

Cleveland Clinic (2022), Endorphins


About the Author

Journalist Natasha Burton has written for Cosmopolitan for Latinas, Maxim,, and, among others. The author of "101 Quizzes for Couples" and "The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags," she is regularly called on as a relationship expert by various media outlets around the world.

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