Role play is something that many couples enjoy - finding that it adds excitement and extra arousal to the bedroom. Yet, while many of us are tempted by the idea of playing sexy dress-up, it can be a subject that we find hard to broach with our partner for fear that they won't feel the same. If you're nervous about getting started, here are four tips to help add a new element to your bedroom routine.
Figure out your fantasy
Whether it’s pretending to be strangers meeting up for the first time or playing doctor and patient, finding the right fantasy for you and your partner can help ease you into your first time. By choosing a scenario that is familiar to you both, it gives you an idea of what to say and how to act without any complications.
Communicate with your partner
You may find it a little embarrassing at first, but talking about your sexual fantasies is a great way to improve physical intimacy with your partner. Starting an open and frank discussion will allow the both of you to learn about each other’s needs while identifying your own desires.
Listening to your partner’s wishes and concerns is a great way to solidify a firm foundation of trust and mutual respect. Remember that any new experiences you bring into the bedroom with your partner needs to be mutually agreed upon and should not feel pressured to engage in specific types of activity.
Once you've discussed bringing role play into your love life, it is time to get started. If you have first-time jitters then start small and remember that roleplay is all about having fun with one another. Don't take it too seriously, to begin with, and focus on enjoying yourself and experimenting with different personas and outfits.
That said, you'll only get out of this experience what you put in so make sure you commit yourself to the role you're playing. It is OK to break character or feel nervous, make sure to acknowledge the discomfort with your partner and pick back up where you left off.
Another great tip to bear in mind when experimenting with role play is that it doesn't just have to be used in the main event. If you want to get your partner in the mood then why not dress up and surprise them as part of your foreplay. Shaking things up in the bedroom can be exciting, and present you and your partner an opportunity to learn one another's desires.
Waiting for them to come home from work dressed up is sure to give them a pleasant surprise, but you can also send hints of what you’re up to by sending a few seductive pictures on your phone. This is a great way to increase desire and will make the concept of role-playing a little less daunting when it actually comes down to business.