What Not to Do During Foreplay

Many times our heads are in other places, and it may take a moment to be “in the moment,” fully focused on connecting with your partner. Think of intimacy as a dance. Couples must warm up before diving into the performance. If care is put in beforehand, the execution is more successful. You can dance the night away by avoiding these 5, foreplay don'ts.


Don't skip it

When you're aroused, the temptation may be strong to skip right to the good stuff. But remember, foreplay is the good stuff. It plays a major role in creating a connection and strengthening the bond between two people. It allows you both a chance to get on the same page and to ease into the mood.

When you're aroused, the temptation may be strong to skip right to the good stuff. But remember, foreplay is the good stuff.


Don't rush it

If you start to speed up the foreplay process, don't worry – simply take a deep breath and start over. Take your time undressing. Kiss slowly. Let your fingers linger on your partner's body. Make eye contact. Gradually explore erogenous zones. Tease and taunt. Whisper your desires in his ear. Smile seductively. After all, you're just warming up.


Don't underestimate the power of teasing

Foreplay can start early on in your evening, hours before you make it back to your bedroom. While you're at dinner, allow your partner to covertly catch a glimpse of your new lace garter. Send him a suggestive text before he gets home to get his mind moving away from work and directed toward you.


Don't be unprepared

When you spend a great deal of care and attention gradually building up excitement during foreplay, it would be a shame to lose momentum. K-Y® LOVE Sensuality Couples Pleasure Gel is a convenient and easy way to prolong lubrication, allowing you to add some variety to your foreplay. Being prepared gives you peace of mind so you can direct your energy to the task at hand.


Don't focus on only one area

Erogenous zones are located all over the body. You'd be doing a great disservice by focusing on only one or two spots. Instead, explore many or several at a time. For example, while you're kissing, use your fingers to gently rub his head, then the nape of his neck and on to tracing the curves of his back. Paying close attention to these subtle details shows you care, heightens passion and brings you closer together.



About the Author

Zoe Wilder is a writer with a Bachelor of Arts in English literature from the College of William & Mary, and a Master of Social Work from Fordham University. Her work has been published in The Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Kinkly, MindBodyGreen, URB,‘SUP Magazine, Vault, Brooklyn Exposed, and Thought Catalog.